From the time we are placed in the bassinet our heads are full of stories and adventures that exist only in 'far away lands'. This introduction in life, should be enough to inform us that the preceding story is pure fantasy; but we are young, naive, full of imagination, and given to believe that if we are lucky enough, one day, we too will be in a relationship and live ''happily ever after".
The concept of a bedtime story is great for lots of reasons it promote family time the kids are quiet it helps in the knowledge of language and is in general a miles better alternative option to the variety of screen-entertainment that's on offer for the new generation.
However the recurrent foundational basis of such fairytales can lead to an entire range of unrealistic expectations in later life when it comes to relationships and the real world. These stories lead us to believe that there's one 'soul mate ' with which a fairy tale ending is achievable. They suggest that true happiness is only achievable if you have companionship. All too commonly women are depicted in film as depressed and forsaken till they discover their 'prince'.
The storylines inherently suggest that 'finding love ' is the battle, and that once you have - everything else will slide into place. In the meantime, in the real world, circumstances like work, wellbeing, finances, debt, children, chores, family and death, just to name a few issues, continually impact the picture wonderful life that we grew up idolising.
Fairytales frequently make the phenomenon of 'love at first sight ' appear common, when in actual fact it is the exception to the rule. Such an event emphasize's the physical sides of a relationship, and validates unachievable expectations because it simultaneously undermines closeness and mutual respect as the foundations of a genuine, loving relationship.
A great relationship allows us to embrace better versions of ourselves and motivates ordinary folk to reach astonishing outcomes. The irony may be that the tale of Cinderella, one of the famous stories about a deep and long lasting love, has given an unattainable dream, leaving us needing more rather than seeing what's great around us
*Cinderella is a widely recognized Walt Disney Production.
The concept of a bedtime story is great for lots of reasons it promote family time the kids are quiet it helps in the knowledge of language and is in general a miles better alternative option to the variety of screen-entertainment that's on offer for the new generation.
However the recurrent foundational basis of such fairytales can lead to an entire range of unrealistic expectations in later life when it comes to relationships and the real world. These stories lead us to believe that there's one 'soul mate ' with which a fairy tale ending is achievable. They suggest that true happiness is only achievable if you have companionship. All too commonly women are depicted in film as depressed and forsaken till they discover their 'prince'.
The storylines inherently suggest that 'finding love ' is the battle, and that once you have - everything else will slide into place. In the meantime, in the real world, circumstances like work, wellbeing, finances, debt, children, chores, family and death, just to name a few issues, continually impact the picture wonderful life that we grew up idolising.
Fairytales frequently make the phenomenon of 'love at first sight ' appear common, when in actual fact it is the exception to the rule. Such an event emphasize's the physical sides of a relationship, and validates unachievable expectations because it simultaneously undermines closeness and mutual respect as the foundations of a genuine, loving relationship.
A great relationship allows us to embrace better versions of ourselves and motivates ordinary folk to reach astonishing outcomes. The irony may be that the tale of Cinderella, one of the famous stories about a deep and long lasting love, has given an unattainable dream, leaving us needing more rather than seeing what's great around us
*Cinderella is a widely recognized Walt Disney Production.
About the Author:
Chris Dawson is a highly qualified marriage counselling expert, helping couples resolve relationship issues. His extensive experience, of over 25 years knowledge, is highly sort after all around the world in his position as Clinical Director for Humaneed, a leading Marriage and Relationship Counselling Service located in Australia.
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