If you have been fighting with envy in your relationship, I know how tricky it can be to battle with the green-eyed monster.
Your imagination starts to paint all kinds of images in your mind's eye and you find your thoughts filled with what-if scenarios. This is enough to sent a jolt of panic through you or send you curving off into a flight of fury.
But you need to realize that envy is 100% wholly in your brain. Jealousy can destroy a relationship, but it does not need to if you can get your thoughts under control.
Your thoughts are your own and you can actually control your thinking with a few of the love advice tips, I'm going to talk about here.
Any time you feel an emotion like envy or anything else that you may not like such as unhappiness, anger, or anything more, you have to realize that these emotions are coming from you. Other people are not responsible for how you feel. Sure, they're accountable for their own actions, there's no doubts about that. But how you view and make a response to their actions is completely on you.
You can control your emotions by controlling what you focus your mind on. All bad feelings (yes, each one of them) come from focusing your mind on what you do not want. This includes jealousy.
When you're feeling good, you are concentrating on what you do desire.
So the question then is, how can we concentrate on what we want?
We do this through the questions we ask ourselves. If you ask yourself a question like "What is she doing while she's out to lunch with that 'guy pal ' of hers?" you'll eventually start thinking about your wife or girlfriend getting wooed by this new friend of hers. This could start the ball rolling for the gremlins of envy to take over your mind.
On the other hand, if you start asking questions like "If she's out with a friend right now, what can I do with my spare time to enjoy myself?" you may immediately start to find things which will make you feel good.
The point isn't to turn a blind eye on a problem. The point is to let go of making an attempt to control things that are outside of your control. If your girlfriend is out to lunch with a friend, no amount of thinking is going to change what occurs, so why stress about it?
Your imagination starts to paint all kinds of images in your mind's eye and you find your thoughts filled with what-if scenarios. This is enough to sent a jolt of panic through you or send you curving off into a flight of fury.
But you need to realize that envy is 100% wholly in your brain. Jealousy can destroy a relationship, but it does not need to if you can get your thoughts under control.
Your thoughts are your own and you can actually control your thinking with a few of the love advice tips, I'm going to talk about here.
Any time you feel an emotion like envy or anything else that you may not like such as unhappiness, anger, or anything more, you have to realize that these emotions are coming from you. Other people are not responsible for how you feel. Sure, they're accountable for their own actions, there's no doubts about that. But how you view and make a response to their actions is completely on you.
You can control your emotions by controlling what you focus your mind on. All bad feelings (yes, each one of them) come from focusing your mind on what you do not want. This includes jealousy.
When you're feeling good, you are concentrating on what you do desire.
So the question then is, how can we concentrate on what we want?
We do this through the questions we ask ourselves. If you ask yourself a question like "What is she doing while she's out to lunch with that 'guy pal ' of hers?" you'll eventually start thinking about your wife or girlfriend getting wooed by this new friend of hers. This could start the ball rolling for the gremlins of envy to take over your mind.
On the other hand, if you start asking questions like "If she's out with a friend right now, what can I do with my spare time to enjoy myself?" you may immediately start to find things which will make you feel good.
The point isn't to turn a blind eye on a problem. The point is to let go of making an attempt to control things that are outside of your control. If your girlfriend is out to lunch with a friend, no amount of thinking is going to change what occurs, so why stress about it?
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